An old Musing — I’ll occasionally bring one of these back because they hit certain chords that are well worth listening to again:
“Kids don’t pick up training because parents sit around and talk to them about values. Children watch their parents live values.” (Colin Powell)
This is one of those ‘Duh’s’ in life that you would think we would all get
all the time.
Translated into practical terms it means:
If we don’t want our kids to smoke…don’t smoke.
If we don’t want our kids to drink alcohol…don’t drink.
If we don’t want our kids to drink alcohol to excess…
don’t drink to excess.
If we don’t want our kids to do drugs…don’t do drugs.
And here are the tougher ones:
If we don’t want our kids to lie (even white lies!)…don’t lie.
If we don’t want our kids to swear…don’t swear.
If we don’t want our kids to yell and scream at each other…
don’t yell and scream at each other.
And so on…
It’s even more important to look at the positive side of this concept:
If we want our kids to value honesty…be honest.
If we want our kids to believe in themselves…encourage them.
If we want our kids to be kind…
practice kindness and compassion every day.
If we want our kids to care about us and others…
always, always show you care about them.
If we want our kids to…
(fill-in-the-blank with your own personal top ten values.)
It pays to think about this.
Kids learn values from us. It doesn’t hurt to talk about values and qualities that you believe in, but they will learn what you do even more readily
than what you say.
I’ve said this before in a Musing but it’s a great thing to repeat: Kids learn very well. They learn very well from the moment they are born (and even before they are born according to well-documented research). Everything you do and say within their purview teaches them something.
What are you teaching them today?