Monthly Archives: November 2012

Guiding ‘Difficult’ Children

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Guiding ‘Difficult’ Children

The focus of this book is not only about helping you to guide your children through concerns that arise during their early years (0-18), but it is even more about enjoying your children. They do grow up, much faster than we expect. Take advantage of the tremendous joy they can bring into your life and the vast understanding of life that they provide. You will be glad you did.

 Children can add an incredible amount to our lives: they bring joy; in many ways they bring us an education far beyond anything we learn in school; and they also, certainly, can bring us problems and concerns that we need to deal with.

 As a parent you probably are aware that there are many resources available related to raising children. What makes this book different? Perhaps it is simply that I, while having a psychology and educational background, will focus on what I think are the basics in being successful with children. Much of child raising is, as you will see, centered on two key ideas: love – caring for them and letting them know you care; and providing them structure – so they are prepared for the world as it comes at them.

 What is in this book I used while raising my children, and in working with children throughout my professional life. I was either lucky, or these techniques worked. I hope you will find what is contained within clear, concise, and direct.

 Children are a great deal of responsibility. It is important that as parents, even in the most difficult of times, that we try to keep in mind our critical role in the development of our children. Everything we do with them, to them, for them, and in their presence is part of their life education.


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Succeeding with Difficult Professors and Tough Courses

As a university student, regardless of level (Freshman through Senior and Graduate Students), you can have concerns about working through difficulties you encounter in a given course or with a given professor. There are ways to succeed in these situations and to get the grade you want. Our goal is to help you get there.

 Thus this book will be divided into two main sections:

             Succeeding with Difficult Professors

 Those professors, who for whatever reason, cause you concerns, upset, and/or perturbation. There can be many reasons for why you see them as difficult. Herein you will find ways to cope, succeed, and hopefully get the grade you want from them.

             Succeeding in Tough Classes — doing well in classes that are considered     difficult (hard).

 The first section will discuss ideas and skills you can use to get through personal difficulties with professors. The second section will focus on techniques, study skills, and approaches that will help you get the grades you want.

 You might wonder what I am bringing to this equation. With four college degrees and many extraneous college credits, I have paid my dues as a student. I also have twenty-plus years experience as a college professor and administrator. My experience as a student and as a professor ranges from studying and teaching at small private universities to large public universities. I have learned from, observed, and yes, even suffered with all types of professors from many different perspectives. As a result I will use a fair number of personal anecdotes throughout this book. I hope these illustrations are valuable.

 My approach to difficult people [Understanding and Working with Difficult People] is that the onus is always on myself, and what I can do to make the situation better. You may wish the professor were different, you might want to complain to a higher authority, but ultimately, in most cases, the burden falls on YOU to make the best of the situation. We can always blame other people – our professors – but it probably won’t get us very far. Keep in mind, too, that there are always things we can learn from our experiences with difficult people and difficult situations. While you may be very intelligent and highly motivated, there are always new things to learn, especially when it comes to people. Everyone is different, and no cut and dried ‘formula’ or approach works with everyone.

 The same open-mindedness applies to learning skills and techniques that can help improve your ability to get through difficult courses. You probably have specific ways that you study and learn. I can pretty well guarantee there will be some suggestions included here that you haven’t heard or haven’t tried yet. They work! As you will see I have had some very difficult (and tough) professors to get past in my studies.

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