Monthly Archives: May 2013

Difficult Men — Update

On the short slope — hope this book will be available within the next two weeks in softcover, perhaps slightly longer than that for the e-book. Stay tuned for the grand announcement.

I was thinking the other day about “Blame,” which is a whole chapter in “Difficult Men”. Unfortunately in most difficult relationships there is a ton of this to go around.

Could you envision turning that finger you might be pointing at someone else around? Not that you are necessarily wholly to blame for difficulties you are having with someone else (because, yes, there are enough jerks in the world), but the truth is we all add to difficult situations in some way. One of the key points in this book is that in order to be successful with difficult people you have to change how you interact with them [because you can be pretty well assured they are not going to change how they interact with you unless you do].

It’s worth thinking about.

Blame almost always goes both ways and being right isn’t always going to pay the piper.


Joe Koob


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Men are…

My new book, “Difficult Men: A Book for Women by a Man” addresses the very important consideration about how you (if you are a women reading this) feel about men. It’s worth thinking about, because the better you understand the feelings you have toward: men in general, and a specific man you are having difficulties with, the more successful you can be in coping, weathering, dealing with, being successful with them.

This type of question can of course raise some strong feelings, so if you need support when working through something like this do it with a friend, life-coach, therapist… someone you trust and feel comfortable with.

Keep posted. Book is at publisher and I’m hoping it will be out within the month.


Joe Koob

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