I wrote this quite some time ago and have included it in the appendices (in various forms) in many of my books. If it serves, circle the second section and put it where you can read it every day. Many of us, me included, have fought our whole lives feeling “not good enough.” Self-work is often about turning negative influence from our younger years into more positive self-worth. You are a child of this universe no less than any other; find the love within.
I am going to worry all the time and kick myself
whenever I do something
that is remotely stupid.
I am going to feel bad whenever anyone puts me
down, be depressed because no one likes me,
and get frustrated all the time
because no one listens to me.
I am not going to take care of myself when I get
tired, over-worked, or ill
or take time for myself because I have way too
much to do.
I am going to accept everything bad that anyone
says about me,
because it’s all true.
I am going to wallow in self-pity.
I am going to stop worrying and look at the
brighter side of life.
I am going to pay attention to my thoughts
and feelings and when I start to think negatively
or to kick myself,
I am going to turn my thoughts around and say
supportive, kind things to myself.
I am going to be self-confident, believe in myself,
and maintain a calm, cool, collected persona
wherever I am and with whomever I am with.
I am going to be assertive, kind, and compassionate
in all my dealings with others.
I am going to pay attention to my communications
and always try to present
a positive me to the rest of the world.
I am going to believe in myself.
Best, Joe Koob