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Be Generous

Besides “99 Words for Leaders to Live By,” I also want to wax on about other terms and ideas close to my heart.

Generosity isn’t easy for most of us. A good many of us start life being taught, and this “education” continues throughout life, that striving after “the good life”  is of paramount importance. Whether we are told this directly or indirectly (e.g. through ads, what people talk about, etc.), it becomes a part of who we are — we want “the good life”; we want our children to have it too.

Many of us are also taught many decent virtues, including “giving to others,” etc.

I’m directly out of this mold. Yet… It has never been easy for me to be generous. Yes, I have, in many ways, been generous with my time. I’m good at pitching in, helping others, volunteering for things, and so on. Being generous with my “money” and “things” has been much harder. I’m learning. It is something I have improved on over the years by having some good role models and by observing the world and what seems to be important to it.

Like many people, I grew up in a lower middle class family — one that didn’t have all those things we saw advertised, or have all those things other people “had,” yet, we were okay — we got by, we had enough to eat, my parents tithed, etc.  So, striving after “things” did have its appeal.

How does “generosity” fit into your life? Can you make some adjustments?

These are good questions. As I said above, it generosity isn’t always easy. BUT, I do believe it is important.

Unfortunately, from my perspective, the world seems to be in a period that is more and more self-centered, and less and less even aware of the importance and value of being generous. Maybe we should call this the “Me” era.”

Here’s some advice: the BEST things in life have to do with kindness, compassion, helping others, giving of yourself — in other words, being generous as a person to as many of your fellow humans as feasible. What I mean is: these are the things that make us feel good. When you help someone else, in almost any way I can think of, you will create the most heartfelt YOU there is.

And what is really amazing is that many, many times, the BEST people at generosity are the people who have the fewest things to give, but they have great hearts. I have cousins like this, friends like this, family like this, and, well… I’m still working on it.

Think about what you can do for others. It doesn’t have to be money; sometimes, even small things, like a hug, a smile, a kind word, and a thumbs up work even better.

Best,

Joe Koob

 

 

 

 

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Accountable

I’m back, and I thought I would start off by returning to where I left off: going through my “99 Words for Leaders to Live By.” A good a time as any to review and go forward as things have not gotten any better with out politicians, have they?

Take the four I have already discussed: Integrity (NOPE!); Honesty (BIG NOPE!); Trust (NOPE); Ownership (REALLY BIG NOPE!). I really wonder how people can choose such law-makers. Read on:

The next word on my list is “Accountability.”

Accountability is about Ownership, AND it is also one of the fundamental truths our fore-fathers set down in our key documents. Things have to have checks and balances or you end up with a government that rules people rather than one that represents and works for the people.

“We the people…” Those three words started it all… “In order to form a more perfect union…”

Its time to make the people we elect accountable for: Having Honor/Integrity; Being Honest; being Trustworthy, having Ownership of who they are and what they do; and for being Accountable to the people they represent.

Personally, I have been embarrassed for our country these past few years. We are better than this as a people, as a nation, as individuals (if we choose to be).

Are these traits important to you? Important to your children? Important to the people with whom you spend your time? Wouldn’t you rather have someone say of you:

She/He is:

Honorable. Rather than be someone who has no integrity.

Honest. Rather than be someone who tells lies; is dis-honest.

Trustworthy — they can count on me. Rather than be someone they can’t count on; who can’t be trusted?

Someone who:

Owns their actions, words, truths. Rather than be someone who blames everyone else and accepts no responsibility.

Someone who is:

Accountable for all of the above. Rather than be someone who passes the buck.

Our country was built on these very truths I talk about here-in. It was started because our fore-fathers felt these qualities were lacking in the rulers reigning over the colonies. Let’s put ourselves (because ultimately “We the people…” accept or don’t accept who we are and what we stand for and the leaders we elect who have or don’t have these same qualities) back on track. America is about TRUTH and many other stirring and admirable qualities:

“…crown thy GOOD with Brotherhood…”

America is not about hate, division, in-equality and a host of other negative qualities and attributes: “We the People of the United States, in Order to form a more perfect Union, establish Justice, insure domestic Tranquility, provide for the common defence, promote the general Welfare, and secure the Blessings of Liberty to ourselves and our Posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America…”

Take some time and read the “Declaration of Independence ” and the “Preamble to our Constitution” again.

Leadership should be about living a life of Honor. YOU can be a leader in more ways than you might imagine. Living a positive, integrous life is a good start: Wherever you are in life, from this time forward, you have choices you can make that reflect an Honorable/Trustworthy life well-lived, or something else. Make a choice that reflects the truths you want to be and that are part of YOUR LIFE WELL-LIVED.

Best,

Joe Koob

 

 

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